Recently I have had the privilege be being there for two of my adult granddaughters
and also for my littlies. Sure with the six and two year olds my presence and undivided
attention is sufficient right now. My connection is deeper for the mature girls.
Today is an update from one of my very early posts...which I felt drawn
to repeat. Why? Because I value the essence of 'being there'.
'Being there' means to me...being available, being trustworthy (knowing
you won't repeat what they share with you) being able to listen and hold the
space while they talk out a challenge, being non-judgmental and supportive in a
way only a grandparent can be...it is such a different relationship to the one
you have with your children. The emotional connection is at a different level.
What magical words to hear 'I
really appreciate you listening to me. I honestly don't think there is anyone
else I can tell who could be so informative, non disruptive and non judgmental.
I'm proud to have you as my Grannie Di..
And my words flow....
Darling you are beautiful, you are loved, you are special and you can do
it!
Your life will be littered with glad and sad moments ranging from the
miniscule to the monumental. What a joy our life journey is and what a
privilege it is to be your Grannie Di. I encourage you to love yourself and
grow into the amazing fabulous woman I
know you will be.
I have watched over you as you have grown; sometimes near, sometimes
from afar. Wherever I am, the invisible thread that binds our soul will be
always be there. A grandmother and her granddaughter have an opportunity to
share such a special bond. Freed from parental responsibilities I am free to
love, guide and yes, share love, light and laughter between us.
You have such openness, curiousity and delight in everything that you
approach never forget to look within and see you own inner beauty and strength.
As life pops up doors will open, some will close gently, others will just slam!
Then the magical happens and you can and will be delighted.
You won’t just grow up confident without a care and have the world at
your feet. Now don’t go off into a funk…you haven’t heard the worst yet. Brace
yourself; there will be high and lows, great times and shocking times.
I know it isn’t what you want to hear but really the world we live in is
not all that good for confidence building, let alone promoting sensuality. You
will suddenly find yourself in your 20’s then 30’s and as each decade
approaches – same deal. Your confidence will be celebrated and challenged in a
host of different ways.
Here’s another curly one – a pretty girl or a great looking guy knows
that ’beauty’ opens doors, but what happens when you open your mouth? Have you
learned to speak with kindness, joy and love? Have you learned the lessons of
openness, honesty and trust? Have you learned the utter joy of laughter, it
will carry you over the rocky times in your life. If you settle for superficial
confidence you will struggle to believe you have anything else to offer.
You will find a way to move forward with your confidence – that may seem
a drag now yet it is curiously fulfilling and comforting.
As you mature you will come to understand sensuality apart from
sexiness. Sensual is the way you move, the way you talk and act, the lure of
the promised…not yet delivered. It comes
from deep within and is about your personality and aura. Sexiness my dear you already
understand!
Too soon, you to will have children and when you are 50+, you may be on
top of the world and that would be fabulous. If not, it is never too late to
seek out confidence and sensuality again. It would be the perfect opportunity
to re-discover it and how exquisitely exciting is that? You will remember our
conversations about life from when you were a young lady.
You will be unaware that you have taught me so much, the intensity,
vibrancy and energy of youth are a constant source of delight and amazement to
me. Lessons that were learned simply because I was willing to listen to your
innate wisdom. Thank you.
You can build an inner confidence and sensuality that simply radiates
and shines, you can speak with love and kindness, you can feed it with positivity
regularly, you can learn to laugh at your sometimes un-confident self, pick
yourself up and dust yourself off and do it all again. Confidence and
sensuality are potent qualities and values to possess.
From my heart to your heart and speaking with the wisdom gained from my
life experience - remember darling, you are beautiful, you are loved, you are
special and you can do it! And I am here for you!
Maybe you have a beautiful granddaughter to share this message
with...maybe you have a message to share with other readers.
As usual I love to know you have been here. It would be fabulous to hear
the gems you shared with your granddaughters or perhaps what gems you
learned from your grandmother.
This is just beautiful Di Riddell my maternal Grandmother passed away when my Mum only just found out she was pregnant we with and my paternal grandmother passed away when I was 4, I have always felt their presence throughout my life and as I was reading this Di it was as if they were saying it all to me - you have a magical way with words... love you, Leesa Monro
ReplyDeleteThanks Leesa, yes it is a beautiful connection between grandparent and grandchild. And feeling the presence from someone who has left our world is very special.
DeleteI accept your compliment graciously...and remember lovely lady to celebrate your magic.
Cheers Di
Such beautiful words. You are very lucky to have your Grand Children so close so that you can enjoy their life. When I read this I realised how much I miss my Grand Children. Never let anything come between your love for them and may they always stay safe. Love Vince
ReplyDeleteThanks Vince...you are right grandchildren are special...thanks for sharing your thoughts. Cheers Di
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