Saturday, 1 June 2013

OORFL - yet was it... really, really awful!


Not a grain of confidence was in evidence....overwhelm, disbelief, worry flooded through me. Why you ask? I had the most 'technological terror  charged '  evening you could imagine.

And where did I go...straight to overwhelm!

Now I know this would not happen to any of you...but you might know someone who it happens to! In that case you may feel the urge to forward this on to them.

And why...why am I bearing all? Simply as a timely reminder that all have little, bigger, Ok gigantic slip ups every now and again. We reach that place where rational thought disappears...remember avoid 'berating self  and indulging in self flagellation'.  The Universe will think you love it and give you more!!!!!

Just a gentle reminder...It's NOT always all about you!

And just how did I come up with OORFL, apart from thinking it was awful? 
Not my English teacher I can assure you....

O Overwhelm
R Recognition
R Re-choose
F Forgive
L laugh

Overwhelm - Life, like confidence ebbs and flows, usually when a number of things happen together...then we slip beyond rational thought and head straight to overwhelm....All your projections, judgements and anxieties come galloping forward to join the mayhem.
 A tip - Avoid pulling your hair out. Recognise that is where you are, take responsibility and remember it's not always all about you.


Recognition - To recognise that things happen, life happens, if you are starting out on your journey of growth and learning new coping habits, you first need to dissolve the old. It has taken you 10, 20 30 or even 50 years to get to where you are...change doesn't just happen overnight.
 A tip - be willing to look at an experience with new eyes. Recognise it is a slip, not a landslide. Acknowledge your slip, smile and take that awareness as a stepping stone forward.

 Re-choose - Just as you chose, yes, you did choose can now choose a new thought, word or action. That is where the strategies and new habits you are forming come into play.
A tip - Do something today that your future self will thank you on your new strategies regularly, especially when you feel good that makes them a habit and it is easier to put them into practice. if you wait to practice until you are in a drama then they are less effective. 

Forgive - How we berate ourselves when something goes wrong! Who did that... why me... I never did anything...he did/she did... and the list goes on. Learning to forgive yourself comes from a place of self love, then you will find it easier to forgive others.
 A tip - Breathe and release. Forgive and love yourself, it will change you life. Forgive others not because they deserve it or you condone an action...but because it brings you peace. 

Laugh - When a challenge arises in life one of the first things to disappear is your sense of and ability to have fun and laugh. Next thing years have gone by...and suddenly you don't remember how.
A tip - The most wasted of all days is one without laughter. Develop the skill of being able to laugh at yourself. Remember whatever happens...this too shall pass.  And...the sun will still come up tomorrow and... if it is raining consider it liquid sunshine.

The good news when I took responsibility and action using these strategies my next 24 hours amazing things happened. A check up from the neck up helps us all...yes including me!

If you are feeling overwhelmed or your confidence has slipped  contact  me through or direct on for a coaching session. I'll take the overwhelm away so you can focus on attracting the next best thing into your life.

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